How to handle child's tantrum in public place?

I get it because I am also a parent who is learning and unlearning so many things daily to be better for my child.

We feel embarrassed when our child throws tantrum in public
We feel overwhelmed when our child cries for things in public
We feel angry when our child doesn't listen to us in public
We feel disrespected when our child talks back infront of others
We feel failure when our child doesn't behave or perform like other Children
These all are very common and valid emotions of a Parent.

But let me ask you something,

Who is still growing and needs your support and understanding to navigate through new emotions everyday??
Matured people around us?? or Our child??

Why do we give importance to those matured human and ignore our child's need???

My dear parents,
If you have to choose between the WORLD and your CHILD, Always choose your CHILD
Because for the world you are nothing but for your child, you are EVERYTHING.

This will definitely change the way you think and the way you handle the situation.

Well I understand that handling a child’s tantrum in public can be really challenging.
but there are ways to handle such situations:

1. When your brain talks to you like "Everyone is watching, what will they think, what will they say.....etc"
Always remeber they don't matter when it comes to your child.

2. Stay Calm
Take a deep breath and speak.
We humans pass on the energy around us. If we stay calm, it helps the child to calm down

3. Address the issue
Try to talk to your child.
Don't give lectures like I told you, you always do this and so on...it will surely increase the tantrum.

4. Give clear message

If child is acting stubborn or crying or irritated, try to find out the reason behind that behaviour. Child may be hungry, or sleepy or over tired or he wants something or anything.
Find out the reason and act accordingly.


If child is crying for some toy or anything you can say "I know you liked that but we are not buying today.

5. Keep It Short
Long explanations don't work when child is on high emotions. They dont understand our long explanations and lectures.

6. Come out of that situation
If child is not in a state to calm himself down, just remove him from that place and situation.
Find a place like another room or rest room where less people are around and child doesn't feel overwhelmed. Once the child is calm, you can talk.

7. Don't give in
If the child is acting out and as parents we give in just to stop that behaviour, we are giving them a clear message that if you act like this we will fulfill your demands. This will only make the situation worst next time.

Be firm with your boundaries in a polite manner.

Tips:
For Younger kids, keep their favorite toy or snacks handy to distract them. This really helps.
For Elder kids, prepare them well in advance, where are we going, why are we going and what is expected from them. This will prepare them in advance and minimize the possible tantrums.

Happy Parenting!!